Why You Should Stop Talking Too Much [Read]

Talking too much is a sign of hyperventilation. It leads to reduction in the brain CO2 and Oxygen. This interferes with oxygen transport since CO2 is a powerful dilator of blood vessels and necessary for oxygen release in tissues (the Bohr Effect). Hence, excessive talkativeness or talking too much (or with wrong skills) promotes any chronic disease: like cancer, heart disease, diabetes, obesity, and other side effects  like dizziness, light-headedness, loss of concentration, emotional instability, muscular tension, and abnormal posture.

    People Who Talk Too Much

According to Social psychologist, they presumes that the people who are likely to talk too  much are; 


 1.  People with Asperger's-type disorders.

    2. People who are anxiousand, trying to please

the person they are talking to.

3 3. The Narcissists,  Those who think that what they have to say is very important and entertaining.

 4.  Also, Clinical psychologist Bob Montgomery says some people grow up with the "bad habit" of talking without listening.

This is a problem, because communication problems often underlie many other problems people have in their relationships.

"One of the most powerful communication skills you'll learn is good listening," Dr Montgomery said. "Communication is meant to promote understanding. You can't wind up understanding each other if you're not actively listening."

And if you are trying to convince somebody of something, listening is a much more powerful tool than talking.

Why Do People Talk Too Much ?

1.   People who talk too much lack personal awareness: They haven't emotionally evolved to understand about rapport and being interesting. And people do all sorts of things when nervous.

                                        

How To Stop Talking Too Much

1. Stop talking about yourself and start asking open ended questions about others. This will handle the control of conversation to other person and will allow them to talk. So if you ever got a feeling that you are talking to much, ask a question starting with why, what, how, where, etc.
 

2. Use paraphrase to confirm your understanding. Wait till somebody finish, then repeat the essence of what the other person has said, but in your own words. That way you focus on other person, confirm understanding and build relationship.

 

 3. You can also apply the one minute tool (inspired by Robin Ryan's excellent book, 60 Seconds & You're Hired): if you have more to say than you can say in a minute, limit yourself to one minute and use that time to give an overview of the most important points you would make if you talked longer. Then stop and ask your listener to help you decide what to prioritize and how much more detail to go into. For each point and sub-point you add, start by speaking for just one minute, asking for more feedback as you go on to clarify which issues you need to address, and taking a moment before speaking to focus what you will say.